Dear encourager ~ when you tell us, "I'm praying," it's not just words. This is kingdom work. It's ministering to the least of us at times when few others even know you did. You will likely never even know your impact. But we know.

Dear Encourager ~ 3 things we want you to know

For anyone who has a heart to be an encourager, this powerful post will encourage YOU. This is kingdom work. You will likely never even know your impact. But those being encouraged by you know.

Dear Encourager,

Hi, it’s us.

The fallen, the broken, the discouraged, the hurting.
The ones who sit alone at home or feel alone in the middle of a big gathering.
The ones that few others see. Except you.

You have a gift.
You see beyond the facade to understand much of what we can’t express.
You sense that you are called to speak up, reach out, and draw us in.

But we can imagine that it’s not always easy to be an encourager.
We know.
We’re us.
Sometimes when you reach out, we might not respond in a way that fully affirms the value of what you offered.

We’re sorry for that. We’re not always aware of how broken we are and how broken our responder is.

We wonder if the enemy uses our broken responses to downplay the importance of what you do.

In case you’ve doubted yourself lately, we think there are a few things you need to hear.

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For anyone who has a heart to be an encourager, this powerful post will encourage YOU. This is kingdom work. You will likely never even know your impact. But those being encouraged by you know. Scriptures for encouragement, friendship quotes, faith quotes


1. When you tell us “I’m praying for you,” those aren’t just words.

Don’t ever think you sound trite and simply polite or even worry that you sound too “spiritual.”
You. Posting, texting, messaging, calling, writing.
However you do it – whenever you do it. Matters.
It matters.

Sometimes it’s the one thing that helps us fight back that next round of tears or wave of panic.

Your words carry behind them the power of heaven when you pray for us.
And then when you tell us, you remind us that heaven heard our pleas.

And that’s really it.
When you tell us we are on your heart and that you’ve been prompted to pray, we know that means the Spirit has been moving you, interceding for us.
And we are reminded that we are not alone.
Not only are there others on this earth who care, but God is marshaling His army of warriors on our behalf.

2. You are a nighttime ninja.

When the daylight fades and the darkness takes over, our weakness is magnified.
We are scared of what the future holds.

Yes, we may act brave and talk of God’s goodness and faithfulness when you offer sympathy, but we really aren’t that brave.
We do believe that God is good and He is faithful, but when the night creeps into our bedroom, that knowledge somehow stops informing our heart.

Knowing the truth and feeling the truth are two different things.

And so.
When you reach out just before you go to bed with a Scripture or a prayer or a simple “I care,” it’s like you did a Star Trek move and teleported to our bedside to let us borrow your shield and sword and fight off the lies of the enemy.

With that in mind, here’s a passage that has comforted many of us. We never get tired of being reminded of this truth.

“He will cover you with his feathers.
He will shelter you with his wings.
His faithful promises are your armor and protection.
Do not be afraid of the terrors of the night,
nor the arrow that flies in the day.

Do not dread the disease that stalks in darkness,
nor the disaster that strikes at midday.

Psalm 91:4-6 (NLT)

3. You don’t have to fix it.

You don’t have to have something big or profound to say.
Just saying, “I’m so sorry. I know this must hurt,” is a great start.

Every word and action you offer to us when we are down is multiplied and magnified.
We hear so much more than is actually said.

You hold power in your hands when you pick up that phone to send a text or type a message that speaks truth and life and comfort. It’s not as much about the actual words as it is about knowing you care. So don’t fear that your words aren’t perfect. And please don’t let the enemy convince you they aren’t necessary.

Dear encourager … be encouraged.

This is kingdom work.
It’s ministering to the least of us at times when few others even know you did.
You will likely never even know your impact. But we know.

And more importantly, God knows. And we imagine that when He looks at you, He thinks, “Well done.”

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42 responses to “Dear Encourager ~ 3 things we want you to know”

  1. Andrea Avatar

    Finally got a chance to read this! And I love it. But of course, I knew I would. :) A former pastor of ours used to say, “See the need. Feel the need. Meet the need.” I think we become good encouragers, or at least we should, when we’ve been the recipient of it. The Lord knows I’ve received my share in recent years.

    1. Christi Avatar

      I love how you’ve said that you never thought of yourself as an encourager, but enough people told you that you were that you began to see a calling to it (or something like that.)

      Even encouraging others to encourage is needed! You have always been this in my life, so I ponder why you never saw that it was a gift.
      But I also know — from experience — (and as I think YOU’VE said) … those who have been broken are more tender with the broken.

      Love you, dear friend!

  2. Ronja Avatar

    I love this so, so much, Christi! I think that’s because I know both sides — being an encourager at heart but I am also the one being encouraged so many times. You are so right in so many ways. It never needs to be anything great or huge to encourage my heart, but somehow I often think differently when I try to encourage others — thinking that what I’m offering is too small and doesn’t matter. But every single word of encouragement matters, always. Thank you for sharing this, Christi!

    1. Christi Avatar

      Oh, thank you for letting me know, Ronja! Something tells me that you are a great encouragement to many others. I’m so glad YOU were blessed and reminded how much your words matter.
      (They certainly mattered to me today!)

  3. mbethany Avatar

    Oh Christi! Thank you for this! I’m a timid encourager, always feeling like I haven’t done enough to be there or care because I can’t “fix” things for other people.This hits my heart and helps me to remember who the ultimate encourager is! Love it! Thanks! #TellHisStory

  4. Mary Geisen Avatar

    A big YES for such simple truth. Encouragement in any form is just that – a blessing to others. Thank you for the reminder and also for the words of encouragement at my blog over the weekend.

    1. Christi Avatar

      Thank you, Mary! What serendipity I am finding in this call to write … the opportunity to meet other women of God with hearts burdened to encourage and proclaim truth.

  5. Michelle Avatar


    1. Christi Avatar

      One word from you is like a thousand from others, dear friend. Love you so much! The end :-)

  6. Suits to Spit Up Avatar

    Hi Christi! I’m visiting from Wise Woman Link-up. I’ve been told that one of my gifts is encouragement. Thank you for this post as I sometimes wonder if I said or did the right thing when I encourage someone with prayer, phone call or text. But, I guess the enemy would want me to believe just that. Your post was a blessing as it reminded me about the person on the other end and how critical it is to be obedient to the Holy Spirit as it can really be comforting during those dark difficult nights. Thanks for encouraging an encourager

    1. Christi Avatar

      Thanks for stopping by and using your gift of encouragement on me. Have a wonderful weekend!

  7. Bonnie Lyn Smith Avatar

    OH how my heart needed to hear this. Not only for my own dark nights of the soul: “We do believe that God is good and He is faithful, but when the night creeps into our bedroom, that knowledge somehow stops informing our heart.” <—so true! But also because I am an encourager by nature and try to pour my life, heart, prayers, hope, and life into others, but sometimes we aren't sure how much we make a difference. Brought me to tears! Sharing, tweeting, pinning! Blessings from #Espressos of Faith, a fellow feature at #BlessingCounters.

    1. Christi Avatar

      Bonnie, thank you so much for sharing your heart and affirming the struggle.
      It is real, isn’t it?
      I’m looking forward to getting to know you better.
      Anyone who is a fellow struggler-encourager is likely a great fit as a friend for me!

      I’m setting aside time to read and savor inspiration from others this weekend and I’ll be knocking on your door for a shot of espresso if you don’t mind!
      Thanks again for the gift of your words!

      1. Bonnie Lyn Smith Avatar

        Knock on my door anytime for espresso, Christi! :) I’m so excited to have discovered your site! Blessings to you!

  8. Selena Campbell Avatar

    I agree with your comments. I went through a horrible time in my life, and I would come home to no messages on my answering machine (blast from the past) or blinks on my caller ID (another blast, ha), and feel empty and alone. But one of my friends would call many nights and leave an encouraging word, or just read scripture into my machine. It was like a balm to me, and I’ve told her numerous times that she has no idea how much she helped me to heal.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. Christi Avatar

      Wow, Selena. Thanks for the transparent reflection. That blesses me to know you cared enough to share in order to affirm. I did smile at your blasts from the past — know them well! I look forward to visiting your home base soon. Thanks for the sweet, sweet comment here.

  9. Ruthie Gray Avatar

    Oh so true. The darkness makes everything harder, and a text of encouragement or verse before bed can help oh, so much. Love the analogy of borrowing the shield and sword. So many are hurting and just need to know we care and are thinking of them, lifting them up. So many. I’m your neighbor on Wise Woman today – I feel like God keeps throwing us together for some reason! I value your words.
    Have a great day! :)

    1. Christi Avatar

      I love seeing your name! Yes, God does seem to keep placing us together. Whatever He’s doing, I like it ;)

      Thanks for the affirmation!


  10. Glenda Thompson Avatar
    Glenda Thompson

    Thank you again Christi for a timely and much needed post. We love you and I read and reread everything you write. You may have become my favorite author! Keep it up – you have a lot to share with this world.
    Aunt Glenda

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