Is social media our 6th love language?

Just as technology has changed the receiving of information, it’s impacting the giving of encouragement. Is Social Media our 6th Love Language? How does the Christian use it for good and not become manipulated by it? 1 Corinthians 13 for Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other online platforms.

Is Social media our 6th love language? Despite its drawbacks, it has great potential for believers to use for Christian encouragement. Inside: 1 Corinthians 13 for social media!

The basic concept of “love languages” is that you often express love in the way you want love expressed back to you.
But this can be tricky for someone trying to use social media to offer encouragement and “reach out and touch someone.” What if they don’t reach back?

Social media CAN be used to send out love without becoming something that defines if you are loved. Here’s an analogy to put it in perspective:

If you can view it like a Frisbee, keep throwing.
If you begin to expect it to be a boomerang, you need to reassess.

I don’t think anyone starts out looking to keep a mental tally of who has liked or commented or retweeted them. It just slowly creeps up on you.

One day you’re logging on to check on your friends and give them a little techno-love and the next you’re logging on to see who loved you back.
And if you’re not careful, you progress to hitting refresh on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram like it was a morphine button.

If you get too close to the edge, it’s a slippery slope. So how do you find the main road — and stay a safe distance from the edge of the cliff?

Is Social media our 6th love language? Despite its drawbacks, it has great potential for believers to use for Christian encouragement. 1 Corinthians 13 for Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other online platforms.

For Christian Encouragement Advice, Siri says “Ask Paul” 

1 Corinthians 13 just might be the modern day Google maps for navigating this terrain.

Imagine that.
Paul couldn’t have fathomed the world we live in, yet his timeless words speak to this issue of Christian encouragement. {It’s like he was inspired or something ;)}
From 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 (compiled from ESV and NASB) ~

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous;
Love does not brag and is not arrogant or rude.
It does not seek its own.
It is not irritable or resentful.
It does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth

~ To be patient, you have to forego your desire to hurry up someone’s reply.

~ To avoid jealousy, you have to celebrate engagements or promotions or #blessed moments of others without feeling envious for your own life.

~ To keep from bragging and acting arrogantly, you have to filter “what” you post through the funnel of “why” you are posting it.

~ If you catch yourself wanting to give a rude reply because you’re irritated at someone, you need to stop all social media activities and ask for God’s help in understanding the source so you can work through it with Him and/or the other person.

~ You can’t use it to seek your own. If you ever discover that you’re giving likes, etc. just to get them in return, that’s a warning sign you’re out of step with Paul’s admonitions.

~ You can’t use it out of resentment. If you find yourself withholding a like or tweet or comment just because you’re jealous or hurt, you’re out of step as well.

~ You must be careful in what you celebrate and rejoice over in the feeds.

And finally, in the shadow of verses 1-3 and 7-13:

If you have the gift of tweeting and can express all manner of wisdom in 140 characters or less, but have not love, you’re just adding to the noise.

If you can gain thousands of friends and garner hundreds of likes on a well-filtered image of your dinner, but have not love, you’re still empty and alone.

If you can post the funniest of memes and pin the cleverest of sayings, but have not love, you deserve to be filtered out by the algorithm.

Because after all is liked, favorited, tweeted, posted, and pinned, they will pass through the feeds never to be seen again but love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for social media, it will morph and move on.
We can’t imagine what the future will hold for the platforms, just like we couldn’t foresee why in the world someone would want to tweet nor comprehend the vastness of emojis.

As we look ourselves in the selfie, we must grow up and act like mature believers ~ even with social media. Now we know in part, but one day we will be fully known and our posts and tweets and comments will be laid out before us.

Connecting is good. Ministry is worthy. But the greatest of these is love.

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50 Comments on “Is social media our 6th love language?”

  1. Once again, Christi, you have hit it out of the ballpark!

    God has gifted you with the ability to say what needs to said, and to say it with grace and kindness!

    Oh, that we might use social media for good, for encouragement, and to communicate love to our friends, family members, and associates!

    Thanks for such a powerful word today~

    Found your post on Wise Woman Link Up today.

    Hope you have a blessed day today,

  2. I love this SO much!! We are neighbors at Coffee for Your Heart today, and I’m so glad! You’ve given such ash insightful look into this paradigm switch we’re all trying to muddle through, and I will be chewing on this one for a while. My prayer is to use the interwebs to reach more people and promote His love each day. So many platforms (got Periscope??), so many people. Thank you for sharing! :D

    1. Oh, I love Holley’s place! Hello, neighbor! Thank you for this thoughtful observation. you are right that we are all muddling through. And Periscope? Yes, I’ve dabbled. But who needs to see me live and in living color? ;) Thanks for being here!

  3. I am visiting from Grace & Truth and this was such a good read. We really have started to view social media as a love language, but I agree that we need to be very careful with our usage. Emotions can run hot and sometimes we do need to step back, but I love that social media can help us reach those we could not reach otherwise. Great post :)

  4. “Just as technology has changed the receiving of information, it’s impacting the giving of encouragement.” I couldn’t agree more! I’m still a fan of face-to-face encouragement over the web, but I still believe social media to be valuable. It’s changed the way a lot of people live and encourage others. Great post!

    1. You and me both! There’s nothing like a long conversation over coffee. But more and more, I am learning just how much I can get to know about someone through their words.

  5. Using I Corinthians 13 for this post – GENIUS! And this: If it has the propensity for good, guess who’s got his eyes on how to manipulate it for bad. Always.
    I liked the idea of the “be intentional” folder. That’s a good one.
    Morphine button, giving likes in return, funniest memes and “Christy’s word-of-the-week-that-I-never-thought to-ever-use: algorithm”. I always learn something from you, Tex. On so many levels. Don’t underestimate me. I’m takin’ notes.
    Oh, I can’t even tell you all the things I love about this, I’m just gonna have to share it like all the others. But “as we look ourselves in the selfie”. I can’t even. That one is golden. Truly.
    People need to read this. I needed to read it. Such wisdom and discernment. Will you remember me when you’re famous?

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