Life is messy. Relationships are messy. People are messy. If you dare to get involved, they may hurt you. But some people are worth melting for!
The darling of the Disney blockbuster, Olaf the little snowman, made this line famous:
“Some people are worth melting for.”
Ultimately, this line meant he would be willing to give his life for Princess Anna. Fortunately for cartoon land and all that is right with the world of Disney, he didn’t have to.
However, this line – in the context of the broader movie theme – also contrasted the choice of Princess Anna’s sister, Elsa. Princess Elsa stormed off to live by herself, choosing to freeze out everyone in her life – keeping them safe from her and her safe from being hurt.
Princess Elsa proclaimed her frozen freedom with the song “Let it Go” (otherwise known as the soundtrack that mothers-of-daughters-under-13 have playing in their nightmares):
A kingdom of isolation and it looks like I’m the Queen …
Conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know …
Let it go, let it go – You’ll never see me cry …
Let the storm rage on – the cold never bothered me anyway!
And so, in contrast to Princess Elsa’s frozen outlook, we see that “melting” would signify tears that come from feeling, from choosing the opposite of isolation, from letting others into your heart.
But that’s messy.
Relationships are messy. People are messy. Life is messy.
And if you dare to get involved … Dare to open your heart to their prayer needs … Dare to care about their life …
Well, there will come a point when you may melt over them.
If we had the proverbial crystal ball, we might look into the future and assess each person before dipping our toes in the relationship pool. It’s probably a good thing we can’t.
Will they disappoint you? Most likely.
Might they take everything you offer in genuine concern and throw it out the door? Possibly.
Is their presence in your life guaranteed? Certainly not.
Do It Anyway
I feel a country song coming on.
A little Garth Brooks, “I could have missed the pain, but I’d have had to miss the dance.”
Not a country fan?
How about an English poem (Alfred, Lord Tennyson) “‘Tis better to have loved and lost – Than never to have loved at all.”
This idea is also at the heart of “The Paradoxical Commandments,” which Mother Theresa put on the wall of her children’s home in Calcutta. They begin with this line:
“People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. – Love them anyway.”
To summarize the rest of the infamous list: Do it anyway.
Here’s the thing.
You will often find yourself in a puddle.
How much better to be in a puddle as a result of melting from the warmth of a relationship than from having sprung a leak by keeping it all bottled in.
Investing and getting hurt is a far better alternative to insulating and isolating.
Both are hurts.
One stings for a while, the other aches for a lifetime.
One more thing.
When it comes time for these same people that you let enter — to exit your life, let them know something will melt.
Yes, life moves on and we all have work to do and places to be, and one person’s absence is not going to disrupt all of that.
But something about them will be noticed when they are gone.
Tell them. Say something. It matters.
I worked in an office where everyone was considered replaceable.
This approach to management doesn’t just happen in the work environment, however.
Contingency planning is part of ministry and churches and all types of organizations.
There is a time for focusing on the plan and a time for focusing on the people.
As a leader in my office, I started telling people of their value on a regular basis, both in quick bits of spoken affirmation and in longer notes, emails, and sit-across-the-table-in-my-office sessions.
I let them know – even before they might ever decide to leave – what I considered irreplaceable about them.
Above all the noise of the world, people just want to know that their life matters.
When you identify how they matter in your life or your organization – and tell them – you sow seeds into lives that may sprout in ways you never imagined.
People matter. Words matter. Connect the two.
Some people are Worth Melting For
And finally, the ultimate example in all of this comes not from a Disney character but from Christ our Savior.
He knew it all – all the betrayal and backstabbing, all those who would turn their backs in his time of need, all those who would leave, all the pain and agony.
He knew it in advance and still counted people worthy of His investment – His sacrifice — His life.
Worthy of melting. Read the prophetic description of his crucifixion recorded in Psalm 22:14:
“I am poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint;
My heart is like wax; It has melted within Me.”
Thank you, Jesus, for considering us worth melting for.
Fill us with your power to see others in the same way.
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