If you’ve fallen and can’t “get up,” you begin to spiral further down into shame and hopelessness, drifting further away from the ONE who can lift you out of the pit. You need these 5 truths!
“Help! I’ve fallen and I can’t up!”
The Life Alert (Life Call) commercial’s campy catch phrase rose to pop culture status and became a universally recognized punch line.
The newest remake of the commercial is more like a horror short film and ends with this noteworthy warning:
When you fall and cannot get up, an accident can turn into a tragedy.
Every time it comes on TV, I lunge for the remote to make it stop.
It’s no longer a laughing matter and when I hear the poor woman’s cries, I go to a dark place.
That’s because I fell. And I couldn’t get up.
When a believer has fallen and can’t get up
I’ve often thought about what it would have been like if my family hadn’t been there to call the ambulance.
There was no phone on the main floor and my cell was upstairs.
My foot was hanging from my ankle, dislocated, and broken in three places.
There was no way I could have helped myself and had I been alone, my accident would have turned into something even more traumatic.
I began to see connections between what happened with my accident and what happens when believers suffer from a brokenness that keeps them “down.”
I’m not talking clinical depression. If that monster is what you fight, my heart breaks for you and I know there are no easy answers.
I’m talking about continued discouragement …
… when you feel like you are limping along emotionally and spiritually.
It may be from circumstances beyond your control or it may be due to sin that has separated you from regular prayer and time in God’s Word.
Maybe you’ve been lying in the darkness so long that you have decided God must have turned His back on you and so you’ve returned the favor.
5 Truths if you are “Down for the Count”
Whatever the circumstances of the fall,
when you can’t “get up,”
you begin to spiral
further down into loneliness,
shame, and hopelessness,
drifting further away from the one
who can lift you out of the pit.
If this is where you
or a loved one is right now,
maybe the following words will be an encouragement.
1. He’s seen this before
When the EMTs arrived at my house that night, they were taken aback.
They hadn’t seen an ankle dangling like mine and weren’t sure how to stabilize it. To say the least, that was not comforting to hear.
Once we got to the hospital, I heard the ER doc state that this was the worst he had seen. I was thankful for the serious drugs that numbed the effect of that statement.
When the orthopedic surgeon visited us the next day, he assured me that, although mine was bad, he had done surgeries like this before.
He knew what to do.
The same is true with our brokenness and God’s experience as the great physician:
We aren’t the first
or the only
or the worst He’s seen and
He knows what to do.
I’m thankful for the honest transparency of Scripture that bears witness to the spiritual failures and emotional weaknesses of the heroes of the faith, as well as God’s response to them.
Even before Peter denied Him, Jesus predicted Satan’s sifting, and told Peter that WHEN (not if) Peter turned again, he would strengthen his brothers.
David’s sin led him to the place where he cried out to God,
“Restore to me the joy of your salvation,”
noting that his sins were ever before him, and begging the Lord to
“Let the bones that you have broken rejoice.”
(Psalm 51:12, 3, 8)
God did restore his heart and now it is the writings of David that we turn to in our own times of brokenness.
After experiencing victory on Mount Carmel, Elijah’s next stop was discouragement and depression.
One day he was on the mountaintop and the next he was in the wilderness, begging God to take his life.
God fed his needs, came to him in a gentle whisper, and gave him a new assignment.
It is a myth that good Christians don’t get down.
Scripture testifies differently and also records that God doesn’t get down on you because you are down.
But He will allow you to feel the depth of your brokenness if it is the result of sin or self-inflicted distance.
And that’s why the second thing I learned is so important.
2. Don’t wait to get healed before seeking the doctor
It would have been ridiculous to have waited to go to the ER until my ankle was better.
But isn’t that so often what we do with our spiritual needs?
We think we have to get ourselves cleaned up, doctor the broken places, and present a healthy soul for a sun-bathed time of prayer and worship. But prayer is especially for those who don’t have their act together.
Prayer doesn’t work because you are good; it works because God is good.
God listens to
in desperate situations,
even if the crisis
is because of their own choices.
Someone needs to hear this because darkness has settled in your heart and you’ve turned your back on things you know you should do and maybe even sought solace in things you shouldn’t.
You need to know that you can’t sink so low that your words can’t get up to God.
Psalm 103 records so much about God’s understanding of who we are and His faithful, redeeming, forgiving nature. And I love this reminder:
“The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him.
For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.”
(Psalm 103:13-14, NLT)
He remembers we are only dust.
He’s not surprised that you are weak and if sin has played any part in it, He is THE ONE:
“… who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases; who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion…”
(Psalm 103:3-4, NIV)
God is in the pit-redeeming business.
So right now.
Right where you are.
In the middle of your pit,
with all your scars,
and even self-inflicted wounds.
Turn yourself over to the only one who can make it right.
You don’t have to “get right” before turning back to God.
Redeeming your wrong,
strengthening you to do right,
and even giving your soul the capacity
to bless Him with all that is within you
is what He does best
and what He desires to do most.
3. Continue to follow the course of treatment, even when it doesn’t feel good
Once the broken places were stabilized, it was time to start the long road of physical therapy.
PT was not a quick fix.
And often, the exercises and treatment caused scar tissue to flare and I limped out in more pain than when I limped in.
If I had let how I felt about it all dictate whether or not I showed up to the clinic each day, I would have stayed in bed.
For the believer who is broken, the most important therapy is the Word of God.
But during a dark season, you may not feel like the Word is enough.
You may have even decided it’s not working or it’s not relevant.
Or you are just so exhausted from the weight of the darkness that you don’t feel like opening your Bible.
Perhaps because of sin, the Truth may cause scar tissue to flare and that’s never comfortable.
This is where the rubber meets the road and you see the admonition that “feelings follow correct behaviors and not the other way around” play out before your very eyes.
Eleven times in Psalm 119,
the author references God’s Word “reviving” him (NASB).
Other versions translate it as “give me life,”
“preserve my life,”
“spare,” “restore,” “renew.”
Pick a translation.
The concept is the same.
The Word of God is ground zero for life.
But just like therapy, it’s not necessarily a quick fix.
You won’t open your Bible feeling sad and then close it feeling glad.
Being transformed by the Word takes time.
During my six months of physical therapy, there were many days when I showed up simply because of the relationship with my doctor and his team.
They became my friends and ministered to my heart as well as my limbs.
This is why returning to a relationship with your Great Physician is so vital to all aspects of recovery.
When you are stumbling through a dark season, you cannot rely on how you feel to determine if you should keep doing what you know has been prescribed. Trust Him to help you recover.
Make your first prayer of the day,
“God, give me a passion for your Word.”
It is a prayer He answers
every. single. time.
4. Sometimes the only treatment for infection is to cut it out
Early into my recovery, I developed an infection at the surgical site.
At first, we thought antibiotics had cured it, but it returned.
When it did, my entire foot was now at risk.
This was serious and required a second surgery.
I came out of that surgery with a hole in my ankle.
My surgeon wasn’t messing around this time.
Every single bit of infected tissue (and more to be safe) was gone.
I think you can complete the analogy.
Some things can’t be doctored – they have to be removed.
And if you need to get help removing it, don’t wait any longer.
This is serious and you can’t mess around.
5. Setbacks are a normal part of forward progress and healing
Four months after the accident, I was sitting in my surgeon’s office reporting in on how well I was doing.
Before the week had passed, I couldn’t walk without pain, and when it didn’t get better after two weeks, there I was again.
Staring at my surgeon and demanding answers.
All he could say was,
“Setbacks are a normal part of the healing process. I was hoping you wouldn’t experience this, but it’s actually not uncommon.”
I lost it.
I was so over this forward-backward business.
I was tired of therapy and tired of this doctor.
I just wanted to be healed. For good.
Can you relate?
Two steps forward — three steps back may be a catchy phrase, but when you are walking through the dark valley,
you want out …
and anytime spent in backward motion is demoralizing and the discouragement can affect you exponentially.
When I limped back to my therapy team,
they consoled me by reminding me of how far I had come compared to where I started.
Yes, I wasn’t as far along as I had been,
but thank God, I was further along then when I began.
The same is true for whatever setback you may experience as you cooperate with your Healer to mend your broken spirit or recover from the sin that so easily besets.
You may continue to stumble, but you don’t have to fall again.
“The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him;
though he may stumble, he will not fall,
for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”
(Psalm 37:23-24, NIV)
You will get up and you will walk again
The Greek word “katartizo” is translated in multiple ways.
It is used both literally and figuratively to describe mending that which is broken.
It carries the idea of equipping, adjusting, preparing, and even restoring a person in error.
It is the word used to speak of the disciples mending their nets (Mt. 4:21) and then Peter uses it to describe the after effects of suffering (perfect).
“After you have suffered for a little while,
the God of all grace,
who called you to His eternal glory in Christ,
will Himself perfect, confirm,
strengthen and establish you.”
(1 Peter 5:10, NASB)
It is no small thing that this one word covers all these concepts.
God is the perfect creator-healer, who can mend a broken bone, restore a downcast spirit, and adjust a wayward heart … all with one word.
Your fall doesn’t get the final word on your life.
All through Scripture we see that restoration after failure leads to encouragement for others.
He will do the same for you.
He will replace the weakness with strength.
You will be stronger in the broken places
And as you then testify
of His sustaining grace,
– even if it is with a limp —
will lead others back to Him.
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